I have been having some amazing personal insights recently, reinforcing just how we find meaning beyond the words we hear or read……
For example, I’m convinced that the author of a book I read, has broken into my house, re-written the books and put it back in my bookshelf. This is a book I first read on its release 2 years ago, which I later re-read after doing some training with author. Now he assured me he didn’t break ino my house….so something else is going on. It is also true with my clients – sometimes I will say same thing a number of times on different occasions, and then suddenly it clicks and they start responding differently to the same words I have been saying all along – almost as if they are hearing differently….so what is going on behind the words?
It is all do to with our ‘grounding’ . If you think about when a toddler first sees their name written down, they don’t obviously realise it is their name – they just see different shapes. Their first level of realisation might be associating those shapes with something to do with them, but they don’t understand it has anything to do with this thing called the alphabet, letter composition, pronunciation etc. But over time, they gain different levels of understanding about the letters and they begin to take on a whole new meaning for them. Sadly, once we develop more and think we understand how languages works, we stop looking for meaning behind the words. Our brains generalise to avoid too much complication, so if your brain thinks that it already knows the meaning to a word, it stops looking for any further meaning (technically called a transcendental search.)
So when I coach my clients and say thinks like ‘That it is just your thinking, it might look real but it isnt true' or ‘the fact that we can think is true, not what we think’. Most people just internally log ‘okay, yes that makes sense, I understand what those words mean’. But they don’t pause to realise the real implication of those statements…. they don’t always get an insight about it. For me, there is a difference between understanding and realising.
So what’s making the shift? Grounding. Especially for the context that I am looking at – the grounding about your understanding of the human condition.
My wife says don’t use complicated phrases like ‘human condition’, ‘nature of human experience’ , etc etc, and my response is ‘well if I use normal words like ‘thoughts’ people don’t stop and look for new meaning. It is similar to companies making new categories to draw attention to their product eg .sport utility vehicle or base layers (basically a vest). So for those you who think my lexicon (see, I did it again) is annoying, I apologise, but I am trying to stimulate you to pause and get fresh meaning, but then maybe you don’t need me to help you do that….
Why bother? Well, sometimes, just sometimes, you can get a glimpse of something different that leads you to a whole new realisation about what is and isn’t true about how the world works…..so have another go. The fact that we think is true, not what we think. Insights?